Im 21 dating a 34 year old

Im 21 dating a 34 year old

You ought to be able

Not enough alcohol to vomit and have a terrible hang-over. At best he's a muddled mess and a horrible mismatch for you.

He's keeping you from being intimate

Because what you describe sounds like an exhausting rollercoaster. That was the biggest age gap, but there have been several others of years, and those haven't worked out any worse than my involvements with people closer to my age. He's already been where I'm heading and is more than willing to help me make it through this time in my life. Maybe a buddy or two around. Maybe you want a disney prince charming or a calvin klein model to light an instinctive fire in your loins.

Especially if he's conflicted. You deserve much much better.

He wants a long-term relationship, you aren't ready for that yet. That is just manipulating and drama-Rama. This does not mean you should be ready to have sex and shack up. He says everyone he's asked to be in a relationship with, he had a similar long term view. Yeah, dude has a girlfriend, maybe even a serious one.

They have stopped wasting time years ago if they're even decently intelligent. And he's uncomfortable with taking your virginity.

Yes, you could be miserable in five years time. This kind of thing can make a relationship seem a lot more interesting than it is. You don't need to deal with this bullshit. You don't plan when relationships will expire. And I know you can't put everything into an AskMe post, but I'm not getting much sense of what excites you about this guy.

The trick is to keep your eyes and ears peeled out for these sorts of people. It sounds as though he likes you but is aware of the difficulties above. Don't date a Peter Pan-type with commitment issues. Couples entered relationship contracts that lasted for a set amount of time, instead of getting married as we earthlings do.

It will just keep the

You ought to be able to find someone without all these issues and mini-breakups. It will just keep the two of you in a space where the relationship is an enticing possibility, not a reality you're exploring and then choosing to continue or sever. He's keeping you from being intimate with anyone else, any one who is not him. It does put a positive spin on this type of relationship, presenting it as a formative experience, but it's rather eye-opening.

Either way, it's beneath you, at any age. Find a guy who isn't so squirrelly about his intentions and his life. There is nothing much to it. There are power dynamics with such a large age gap - these are in his favour. He's made it pretty clear that what he wants and what you want aren't compatible.

Older men know what they want and how to get it, for the most part. If you like him, so be it no matter what the age gap is. Overall, I have to say that there are plenty of fish in the sea.